One of the most common things I hear is, "We only need about 10 minutes of your time"
While a wedding ceremony may last 10-20 minutes, the time your officiant spends on your event, definitely is much more than you might think.
For an elopement, which would typically entail the least amount of time, will on average require an hour of your officiant's time. Consider the emails, phone calls and/or texts between you and your officiant, the time spent writing the ceremony he or she will be using, travel to your ceremony location, the actual ceremony and completing and returning the necessary paperwork.
Do I have your attention now?
I'm a big planner. I'm also one that understands that things happen and plans have to change. In the year that I've been performing ceremonies I've come to learn something about planning weddings (though I'm no expert and will never claim to be).
There is a happy place for coordinating a wedding. A place where you have just enough stuff planned out and people to coordinate those plans, but not so much that if something unexpected happens, it throws the bride into bridezilla mode or to break down in tears.
I've seen the extremes and I've seen the happy place and of course everything in between. Here are my suggestions:
I can't tell you how many consultations I've been to. But I can tell you that every one that I've been to, the couple hasn't interviewed us.
I'm actually very shocked at this. Probably the most important person in the grand scheme of your wedding day and we aren't asked any questions? I mean, yes, decor and clothes and food, and, and and...are all so very important. Did you think about the person that signs that marriage license to make your marriage legal?
Wow. This actually pretty interesting to think about. Just because someone is willing to take your money and stand in front of a crowd and say the words, does not mean that they are allowed to legally marry you. This is one HUGE important question you should be asking. But there are more...
by Dusty King of King's Event Planning
“With life comes changes, sometimes we can encompass them, sometimes we must be able to relinquish total control.” Dusty King 2013
As a Wedding Consultant and Planner I have found in recent years this area of the Wedding Industry has grown by leaps and bounds. There are thousands of listings for Wedding associates of any kind now. As schedules get busier, and lives become more hectic and last minute becomes a way of life, sometimes professional help is needed. A planner can do anything from full wedding planner to day of coordinator. Depending on your level of busy, and your ability to accomplish necessary tasks in order for your event to be successful, you can consider what services you really would like help with. Often you will hear women who have planned their own weddings directly afterwards say “Man, I wish I had hired some help!” Weddings are fun, and wonderful events, but they are also one of the most stressful events you will ever go through in your life. A wedding is one of those moments that little girls dream about all of their lives, and when the time comes, if the vision is unachievable because they can't do it by themselves often women will melt down! So not only as a planner do I recommend that every bride have professional help, I planned my own wedding several years ago because it was something I loved to do and I will tell you now I wish I had considered allowing someone to help me! Now when you get to that point to where you are considering hiring that Professional help, I want to give you a few pointers in the things you really need to pay attention to!
I'm Rebecca, owner and clergy for True Hearts Weddings. I love performing weddings, I love my 4 children, and I love life.