We say these words, or a version of them, in our wedding vows, along with "'Til death us do part," or a similar version as well. Some may know the personal issues I'm currently experiencing in my own marriage, some may not. The details are irrelevant to this blog post, but it has certainly got me thinking, and I'd love to hear from all my readers. No trolling or you will be removed, and always show your fellow comment-ers some respect for their opinion, because nobody is every 100% correct when it comes to opinion. That said, here's what I want to hear from you...
...are your vows 100%, 'til death us do part? Or, is there some point in which you say that enough is enough? What is/would be that point for you, and why? Doesn't matter which portion of your vows you would like to discuss, any of them are "open season" in this discussion.
And let the fun begin!
I can't tell you how many consultations I've been to. But I can tell you that every one that I've been to, the couple hasn't interviewed us.
I'm actually very shocked at this. Probably the most important person in the grand scheme of your wedding day and we aren't asked any questions? I mean, yes, decor and clothes and food, and, and and...are all so very important. Did you think about the person that signs that marriage license to make your marriage legal?
Wow. This actually pretty interesting to think about. Just because someone is willing to take your money and stand in front of a crowd and say the words, does not mean that they are allowed to legally marry you. This is one HUGE important question you should be asking. But there are more...
by Dusty King of King's Event Planning
“With life comes changes, sometimes we can encompass them, sometimes we must be able to relinquish total control.” Dusty King 2013
As a Wedding Consultant and Planner I have found in recent years this area of the Wedding Industry has grown by leaps and bounds. There are thousands of listings for Wedding associates of any kind now. As schedules get busier, and lives become more hectic and last minute becomes a way of life, sometimes professional help is needed. A planner can do anything from full wedding planner to day of coordinator. Depending on your level of busy, and your ability to accomplish necessary tasks in order for your event to be successful, you can consider what services you really would like help with. Often you will hear women who have planned their own weddings directly afterwards say “Man, I wish I had hired some help!” Weddings are fun, and wonderful events, but they are also one of the most stressful events you will ever go through in your life. A wedding is one of those moments that little girls dream about all of their lives, and when the time comes, if the vision is unachievable because they can't do it by themselves often women will melt down! So not only as a planner do I recommend that every bride have professional help, I planned my own wedding several years ago because it was something I loved to do and I will tell you now I wish I had considered allowing someone to help me! Now when you get to that point to where you are considering hiring that Professional help, I want to give you a few pointers in the things you really need to pay attention to!
by Dusty King of King's Event Planning and Rebecca Norris
Yesterday I shared with you the wording my friend and I came up with for a "Branding Unity Ceremony". I decided to offer an alternative to my coworker in case the couple didn't have all the necessary supplies to do that ceremony (or in case there might be safety concerns preventing it).
The couple has a fishing theme for their wedding. A little offbeat, but the decor that Reginna (my coworker) was telling me about, sounded very unique and beautiful. The centerpieces, for example, are bowls filled with river rock, water and fake fish, set atop flat pieces of log. I haven't seen photos yet, but I'm pretty excited to see how those came out!
Back to the unity ceremony. I found this river rock unity ceremony in my search for anything on the branding ceremony, and thought that this would be a great way to incorporate their current theme into the ceremony using supplies they probably already have! Again, there was no wording available for this, so we had to come up with our own. Here's what we created:
Branding Unity Ceremony created by Bob Zemel, Rancher/Officate of StarRanch in Corona, CA
Wording below by Dusty King of King's Event Planning & Rebecca Norris of True Hearts Weddings
My coworker (from my day job) brought this concept to me yesterday and asked if I could come up with the wording to give to the judge that's performing her niece's wedding, this Saturday. Not only had I never heard of this alternative to the unity ceremony, not many others had either. There was only one mention of it anywhere on Google! I was in for a challenge, that was for certain. Thankfully, I have friends who are completely awesome and creative, namely Dusty King of King's Event Planning.
I mentioned this ceremony to her to see if maybe she had seen one before, or heard of it. She was just as oblivious as the rest of us, but she was up for the challenge as well. She came up with some wording in about 10 minutes, passed it along to me, and I tweaked it into what you see below. I cannot wait to share it with my coworker!
"Today, (GROOM) and (BRIDE), are starting a new tradition. As a sign of their love for each other, the intertwining of their lives, and the fire that burns within their souls for each other, gathered together among friends and family, they will brand this piece of wood. This brand will be on permanent display in their home to show their devotion to each other, today, tomorrow and the rest of their lives. To help them find their way back home, if ever lost in the turbulent storms of life. To remind them of the love and support that each of you have given them today and that you continue to give each and every day. As this brand cannot be undone, so shall their promise to each other stand the test of time."
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*edited 8/23 to change title.
*edited 8/9/14 to add credit to StarRanch for the concept of the Branding Ceremony.
*edited 1/11/17 to add photo gallery of an actual branding ceremony, which used our wording. Thank you Amber Shaw for sharing!!
Kim & Hansel were married July 20, 2013 by Reverend Joe Ministries. They hired us through their wedding planner, which was a first for us, and which also taught us a few lessons that we will discuss in a later posting.
Their ceremony was a more traditional Christian script but kept short and sweet, with a scripture reading, unity candle ceremony and broom jumping. Note that we were not informed about the unity candle ceremony until we were at the venue, when we looked at the program and saw it listed. Reverend Joe created the wording on the spot and is similar to what I share with you on the next page (you must "Read More"!), though not exact.
Photo by Kellie Sieger Photography
Amy & Aaron were wed on June 23, 2013 at Bloch Cancer Survivor's Park on The Plaza in Kansas City, MO. Performed by Reverend Joe Ministries.
Their ceremony was a basic Christian script that included a sand ceremony and a special event where Aaron gave necklaces to each of his new step-daughters.
A & A Ceremony
by Rebecca Norris
Welcome and thank you for joining Amy and Aaron today as we celebrate their joining in holy matrimony. Marriage is a public declaration of one’s love and commitment for another. No matter what circumstances may arise, they will face them together. And so we rejoice with them this day. Let us pray.
Father in Heaven, we ask that you look down upon Aaron and Amy with favor today as they join together in Holy Matrimony. Strengthen them and watch over them, in Christ’s name we pray. Amen.
I'm Rebecca, owner and clergy for True Hearts Weddings. I love performing weddings, I love my 4 children, and I love life.